Jump to thread:
~ popularity vs individuality ~
32 messages. 24 contributors. Last post on Jun 22, 2010 1:54PM.
12 posts
|
|
I just want to know what you guys think. It has been the debate in ages.
If you were to choose, which one and why :) You have to be realistic not just because this and this and some said this.
I just want to know if it is possible. ;)
|
|
|
47 posts
|
|
I will chose indivivuality, because being popular is to much of a drag. You are more vulnerable to peer pressure things like that. With being your self you dont have care what other people say or think. I dont. I have been able to make more friends by being myself.
|
|
|
49 posts
|
|
I think nowadays, popularity starts with individuality. Atleast, with the people I am around. If you are bold, and different, people admire you for it.
I definitely choose individuality.
Why live by everyone elses standards?
|
|
|
27 posts
|
|
Some become popular because of individuality; some choose individuality to avoid popularity. So it's a bit of a subjective thing.
In my experience, most of the 'popular' people I've known tend to eventually become very vapid and alike. It's strange. It's like they fear their status and what people might do to them, so they lock themselves up and put on a mask to keep others happy. This doesn't always occur, of course, but I've seen it happen.
|
|
|
21 posts
|
|
Alright well I spent most of my school years trying to be that popular girl who everyone liked and wanted to be best friends with, but what i quickly learnt was all of that comes with a whole lot of drama and unhappiness. I began to find ME in all of the chaos of high school and now I am happy just being Katie :) I think individuality is very important. Be true to yourself is my moto!
|
|
|
110 posts
|
|
Truthfully I stopped trying to be popular my 6th grade year because as Kaitlyn said it is way to much unwanted drama plus I wasn't even be able to trust my so called friends because I live in a small school and had they gotten a piece of dirt on me they would have turned on me like hungry wolves looking at dinner.
|
|
|
123 posts
|
|
I'm too shy to even consider joining the "in" crowd.
|
|
|
45 posts
|
|
ok...so I'm just gonna be completely honest. I'm stuck in the middle. I wish at times that I was the popular girl that everyone loved, but at other times I am just happy the way I am being the unique one that is absolutely insane. Overall though I know that everyone at one point or time in their life wanted to be the poplar kid
|
|
|
14 posts
|
|
I agree.
I have before wanted to be popular just because I thought it'd be nice to be noticed haha. But I have found out that indivduality is much more important. I'm more comfortable with being who I am now and not worrying about how people will react to me or whatever.
|
|
|
576 posts
|
|
Being an introvert and having bad experiences with the "popular people", "preps" i'm more of an individual. Besides, popularity isnn't going to go with you into college, no one is going to know you, so it's way better to be yourself. Besides, being popular that means that there are going to be people talking about you good and BAD. When your an individual and not popular fewer people know you, thus less is going on behind your back. Plus there was this experience 2 years ago at my school, and there was a student you threatened to shoot all the preps/popular people. Many didn't come to school that day. I didn't have to worry, pretty much no one knows me. I went to school that day worry/fear free. I see no advantage to being popular.
|
|
|
33 posts
|
|
I think most people experience wanting to be the "popular" person, but in the end, you'll be happier off being an individual. You'll meet more people that are truly like yourself, and you've got a better chance of making genuine friends. :]
That's how it was for me. All throughout middle school I tried to fit in with the "popular" people, but eventually I realized that's not me.
|
|
|
60 posts
|
|
i believe individuality is more important. most of the time the when you TRY to be popular, you're just being like someone else and so "you're" not actually popular, but the person you're portraying is.
and if you are an individual you will be popular among the people who really care about you and that's all that matters
|
|
|
116 posts
|
|
I would WAY rather be individual over popular. If I spent my life trying to make other people like me and not doing what I liked and enjoyed, no one would thank me for it. It's YOUR life, make it count- who cares about being popular. (Besides, most "popular" people really don't feel happy or content, cause they're just faking who they are.) Be real. Be you. Never compromise your stands or beliefs or dreams so other people think you're cool.
|
|
|
|
47 posts
|
|
I basically hang out with anyone., but they need sense.
|
|
|
391 posts
|
|
Being individual is a much happier way to live. Instead of conforming to what others think and worried about always fitting in you can just be yourself and you know the friends you have like you for you not your status. :] I am also friends with anyone. :]
|
|
|
|
47 posts
|
|
|
|
391 posts
|
|
|
38 posts
|
|
Dear Original Poster,
Being popular sucks.
Sincerely,
Edward B
|
|
|
8 posts
|
|
i think that individuality will always be best. popularity comes and goes, and can set us up for disappointment, but you're individuality will be there always. and in the end people will accept you for who you are, not whoyou try to be.
|
|
|
1 posts
|
|
would you rather be yourself and have friends that you can count on one hand that understand you and whom you can trust, or would you rather have a whole bunch of friends that don't really know you nor care for you?
|
|
|
199 posts
|
|
I am a very strong advocate of individualism and establishing and folowing your own path nearly always is the right choice don't let big brother tell you what to do always follow the path less traveled by it always makes the difference.
|
|
|
|
199 posts
|
|
Being popular is overrated be a free individual and live your own American dream live for youself and be a proud individual !!!
|
|
|
|
199 posts
|
|
Being popular is overrated be a free individual and live your own American dream live for youself and be a proud individual !!!
|
|
|
1417 posts
|
|
I am an individual. I bielieve what I bielieve, I think I am right. I do not care what you bielieve as long as you do not press it on me. Be an individual becuase sheep are pathetic.
|
|
|
565 posts
|
|
|
94 posts
|
|
Individual. Why be fake and be like everyone else? Your true colors won't come out, because everyone will except the same thing from you. For me, I'm just KAYLA!! I'm living my own dreams, going down my own pathj, making my mistakes, and regrets. Life is an adventure for me.
|
|
|
89 posts
|
|
Well, honestly, having both is totally possible. I think being an individual, however, is the first step to popularity. In high schools where everyone copies each other, it's very refreshing to see someone who doesn't follow the crowd. this usually makes the other students admire that one individual, who in turn, makes a lot of friends for just being themselves : )
|
|
|
97 posts
|
|
Popularity. I've tried the other, and it didn't lead to happiness in most cases. I'd like to see how the other half lives. Maybe I wouldn't find happiness, but it might be fun.
|
|
|
|
89 posts
|
|
Well, I guess it depends on what type of people you are around. It's true, sometimes teens DON'T like individuality. In my opinion, those are actually the teens who are JEALOUS. They are afraid to let their true colors show, and in turn, they are envious of you for being comfortable enough to be an individual
|
|
|
|
97 posts
|
|
I kind of doubt it was jealiously, (in my case), but otherwise I think you're right.
|
|
|
