Jump to thread:
~ WHY IS A GOOD GUY SO HARD TO FIND..... ~
57 messages. 35 contributors. Last post on Nov 04, 2009 8:37PM.
11 posts
|
|
ive tried so hard to go out with different type of guys but they all end up bein total jerks i don't no wat i do wrong most people say im a great girl and the guys are bad picks for me but i cant help likein them lol.....HELP WAT IS WRONG?
|
|
|
2 posts
|
|
There is still some good guys.The problem is finding them.All you need to do is take time,nuture those you meet and exhibit the good traits in you.Show the man Love,care,attention and Trust.You can contact me.
I am Bernard and a Nigerian.
I have 2 months to finish high school.I would like to know more about you.
I'm a Christian and a virgin boy.Im 19 years of age and wants somebody that I can trust as a friend and whatever one can entrust on.
Bernard Ogubuike Jr.
+2348039371083
|
|
|
|
2 posts
|
|
There is still some good guys.The problem is finding them.All you need to do is take time,nuture those you meet and exhibit the good traits in you.Show the man Love,care,attention and Trust.You can contact me.
I am Bernard and a Nigerian.
I have 2 months to finish high school.I would like to know more about you.
I'm a Christian and a virgin boy.Im 19 years of age and wants somebody that I can trust as a friend and whatever one can entrust on.
Bernard Ogubuike Jr.
+2348039371083
|
|
|
16 posts
|
|
I see your problem. Lots of guys can be jerks. It seems that the quietest people can also be the nicest. I seem to have trouble finding a grilfriend and I think it's because I'm nice. It's nice to know that there are people out there still like nice guys though. lol
|
|
|
35 posts
|
|
ur totaly right!!! I'm very nice but I always find guys who are jerks here
|
|
|
|
11 posts
|
|
WELL DONT THINK OF COMIN TO VEGAS ANY TIME SOON LOL HAH :D
|
|
|
|
11 posts
|
|
hey bernard nice to meet u and wow nigeria thats so far how is nigeria?
|
|
|
|
11 posts
|
|
ya it is so hard to find there are alot of fake ppl in vegas so a good nice guy is hard to find
|
|
|
5 posts
|
|
Hey everyone. Go by the name Dr. Tiffy, I give adive on love, dating, relationships, school, life, future, etc(lol).. There are plenty of good guys left out there. It's not that your constantly ending up with the wrong guy, its that your constantly looking for the "right guy." When something is rushed and not taking care of with patience the worst is usually what comes out of it. Not everyone is going to end up with their high school sweethearts. Some get lucky and others just have to wait until later on in life. Your probably not ending up with the right guy because you're not ready physically, emotionally and mentally for the aspects of a true lasting relationships. In due time with enough patience someone right will come along. Within the time of being alone you should be working on yourself and preparing yourself for what is to come.
|
|
|
1 posts
|
|
yo its not somethin wrong with u. u just need to find the right guy
|
|
|
72 posts
|
|
The problem is not totally with you but you contribute to this madness. First of all, you attract jerks because you like jerks and whether you know it or not great guys, amazing guys pass by you everyday but they feel the negative energy around you and keep walking. You have to change your mindset, the way you think. You said you couldn't help but like total jerks so for some reason your situation is beginning to appear as really ironic. If I say i love gay guys guess what i'm going to get no matter how much i really don't like gay guys. See my point. You have what you say. So girl there is your answer. You wanted to know what you were doing wrong and i told you straight up. Start saying i want an educated man or a real diligent man and you will get what you ask for. You are probably a really good girl but you let your mind run you. Tell your mind how you want it to think and go after your heart. I wish you the best and just know there is someone for everyone and although you want something better you keep expecting the worse and that's what you are going to get!
|
|
|
274 posts
|
|
Hey Don't tell Her that i happen to live in Vegas ( whether or il to or not) .. It is kind of sad alot of the girls i have noticed on zinch have insulted guys both idiotic and us nice guysin an excuse to help soothe others with the problems bu you know what we all have problems some guys arejerks and some girls are shallow, some guys are nerds and looked down upon and some girls the same way. I am a nice guy , respect girls and their wishes and i happen to have a moral value circle that i live by, i believe in being something of kinight for girls i stand bythem if i am dating them or if i am just friends ( ive gotten hurt phisicaly moer than enough times going to bat for my friends) I dont have girl friend because the girl i want, i have yet to find, someone who is stable and independent but it nice and smart, prttey but not shallow or vain, and somone is wiling to look past my issue when i...ehm that is for another time and place im big im almost 6 foot , 247 poundsi have an IQ of 237 ( i had it tested last week), im slightly annoing because i can brutally honest alot and sometime even with all the girls on this site saying what they want or need or how they see themselves i have yetf to see a girl decribe themself with alll honesty i truly is sad
|
|
|
250 posts
|
|
honestly i wish there were more of you! nice guys are hard to come by. whoever said nice guys finish last should be smacked. they are so wrong.
|
|
|
5 posts
|
|
Your Definition of A Good Guy and Your actions might contradict.
|
|
|
231 posts
|
|
Tanathalas....I hate to break this to you but the highest iq recorded to this point is 220. Einstein had a 189. And 205 is one of the highest known achievable iqs that is more common for people above the level of genius. So if one of the highest known is 205, and 220 is the highest recorded im not sure where that puts you. Guinness Book of World records worthy?
|
|
|
15 posts
|
|
You're so right. It is hard to find a good guy, but you just need a little patience. One day, you'll find the right guy with all the right morals and who will love you for who you are. Just have a little patience.
|
|
|
|
11 posts
|
|
ya but morals arnt the first thing on guys plates in vegas thats for sure...
|
|
|
62 posts
|
|
lol a nice guy is what im looking for.. same here girl
|
|
|
60 posts
|
|
It has nothing to do with where your at people everywhere have that same problem so stop using that as your excuse and reason to not try. Sorry if that sounded rude its just one of my pet peves
|
|
|
3 posts
|
|
lol im lookin for a nice guy too girls. It seems like all the nice guys at my school really are nice but since they know it, they try to cheat on every girl they get cause they know they can get em. Gets on my nerves
|
|
|
|
5 posts
|
|
if they are nice and as wondeful as they seem
then they wouldnt behave that way
there not great
there losers
lol
|
|
|
134 posts
|
|
I have found i find the good guys in the most unexpected places. Your best guy friends, for as risky as it will be, are usually the best ones. They know you best and will never cheat because if anything, they will know to put your friendship first. I did that for a while, were not together anymore because it didnt work out, but it was great and were still super tight! :)
|
|
|
5 posts
|
|
i totally know how you feel! i dont even go for a certain type of guy either but they never work out. i dont think there is anything actually wrong... maybe it's just not meant to be? i know how much it sucks though! i still haven't had a boyfriend for whatever crazy reason and I'm going to college soon! WTF?
|
|
|
|
5 posts
|
|
well the reason why you probably havent found 1 yet
IS because you're going to college
collegeg MAY just be where you will find your
Mr. Maybe or Mr. Right
|
|
|
|
5 posts
|
|
I hope so but oh well, it's out of my control
|
|
|
2 posts
|
|
it seems like all the girls i talk to always say they dont find the right guy but when they start talkin to me they feel like im the nicest guy in the world and they feel stupid for not datin me but idk i juss try to make everyone happy if they are single or not.
|
|
|
566 posts
|
|
maybe you are looking in all the wrong places..there are nice guys you just need to know where to look for them
|
|
|
14 posts
|
|
It's a paradox really. Us nice guys always want to help you but don't want to push it like the other guys (we're probably interested, but don't want to ruin a friendship if a full on relationship doesn't work out). And when I say that, in my case at least, it's not a shy thing, it's just the "nice guy" side of us overtakes the urge to go after someone.
Also, a lot of times it's just two different crowds. For example (and hypothetically speaking since I don't know anything about anyone here), you might know a few guys who do fit the exact category you want, but don't actually realize it because he's in a different "group" than you. In yet another paradox, the nice guy every girl is looking for is usually not the "popular" one.
|
|
|
4 posts
|
|
Hey.
Well the way i look at it, and the way it happened to me, is don't look for the guy. He'll come to you, and it's the person you least expect it'll be, but TRUST me it'll happen. There are good guys out there, and the one for you is who you least expect.
|
|
|
208 posts
|
|
I agree. Us nice guy are most likely interested in the girl but we don't want to push it. The reason why most people end up with jerks is because the jerks are the one who push it, that just go straight to you, hit on you, they put their "nice" face up, buy your heart, and after you get to know them, you see that they are really jerks.
In my case, I just do whatever I can to make my girlfriend happy and always hear her out or help her in whatever i can. I always give her her space and I respect her in her decision and emotions.
Well it's not like it matters, I'm single right now
|
|
|
2 posts
|
|
dude, i feel ur pain... to an extent..i think of it this way... theres nothing wrong with you and that the right guy hasn't come for you yea and maybe it you stop trying to find him ... he might just come to you... i mean you'll never know...plus there are alot of great guys out there maybe the ones your exposed too aren't but trust me there are =P...maybe he's closer than you think 0_o
|
|
|
3 posts
|
|
Ill tell you what's wrong hun...YOUR NORMALLL! I wish i would tell you that i went threw it all and now i found the one...no. haha I my self am JUST as confused as you.. Last summer for example..I met this guy on myspace (he went to my school btw i didnt meet some RANDOM guy) lol and we really hit it off, we talked on the phone EVERYNIGHT and i saw him everyday.. he was my summer, the reason i smiled, In plain and simple words...I Loved him... or so I thought. My point is I really thought he would be there for a long time..but he ended up going away in a matter of 3 days...for another girl. Now THAT killed me, I gave a guy my all and ended up left with nothing. now WHAT AM I TRYING TO GET AT..I'll Tell ya...Guys are the one in the beginning..till they figure out another girl has something alittle different..its how we all are..he find someone who has everything the last guy had..but alittle more..and we start all over..and in the end someone gets hurt. We don't know what we want!!!!!! What i REALLY trying to say though is guys will be jerks..cant stop that. BUT the one who isn't will BE your good guy. I tend to go after what i WANT...but what i NEEEEED is completely different. Maybe you need to sort out what you what and need, and when you realize the need is more "key" the jerky guys wont be the first thing you go to. Don't worry hun, we ALL are making the same mistakes as you, I know i am. But don't loose hope, we are young..the good guys out there just waiting for you to stop picking the wrong guys:)
Good luck deciding what you NEED.
-Jessica
|
|
|
|
3 posts
|
|
btw we talked for 4 months...then he left...not in just 3 days. lol
|
|
|
61 posts
|
|
There is nothing wrong with you. I live in Vegas too and a lot of the guys here are just picky and immature. You're still young, so give it time. Someone will come around and sweep you off your feet. :)
|
|
|
1 posts
|
|
Now, the real problem is this: Finding an intelligent guy ANYWHERE.
|
|
|
|
250 posts
|
|
|
826 posts
|
|
Oh I know plenty. But they're all older or taken, lol
|
|
|
|
250 posts
|
|
i know right?! kind of sucks doesn't it?
|
|
|
|
826 posts
|
|
yeah, it does.
the guy I really like is 3 years older than me. UGH. oh well. there'll be other guys..
|
|
|
|
250 posts
|
|
yeah its good to be optimistic about it.
|
|
|
1126 posts
|
|
just be you, he will follow or maybe try reaching out yourself?
|
|
|
|
274 posts
|
|
ya know this has been mentioned in other conversations but the nice intelligent guys lie me and a bunch of others here on zinch are not always going to be in the just waiting to "sweep you girls off your feet" we are nice but we are perfect romeos i live in vegas, and i am nice , i am inteligent and i am not picky well not totally anyway i live in vegas i think its the girls that have all the issues so to speak because i have yet to meet a girl who was looking for the kinds of qualties me and my friends have yes there is more than one nice, intelligent guy in vegas, we all like having fun but we are patient we try to be good to the girls we are with but it doesnt seem to workout for us so i dont know maybe there are any decent girls in vegas i may be wrong but if there are let me know so i can let you know where us nice guys hangout because you will be surprised.
|
|
|
|
250 posts
|
|
yeah girls are definitely a big part of the problem. i guess most of us are tired of being screwed over. but that's just my point of view.
|
|
|
68 posts
|
|
hey makenzie, dnt fell bad...yuuhhr not the onlii girl in the world who hasnt found the right guy...and im pretty sure some of them have been through the same situation as yuuhh...take me for example...i have dated plenty of guys tht i thought would be "the one"...come 2 find out, they were all just total jerks! after many years of experience and getting treated wrong by so many guys, i just decided that i should wait until he comes 2 me. if yuuhh do this, im pretty sure tht yuuh will find your right someone. just give it time girl. trust me. and if yuuhh or anyone else would like, become mii friend on here and if yuuhh have a myspace or aim, id be more then happy 2 become yuuhhr friend. just send me a message through zinch giving me yuuhhr e-mail or watever and ill add yuuhh...im a rele nice girl and i give alot of advice. im the best friend anyone could wish for and hopefully, some guys will find out tht i am a rele great and caring girll...
|
|
|
153 posts
|
|
To be honest, there are plenty of nice, smart, and well qualified guys out there. Im one of them. The thing that makes it hard to find us is that all the other dudes are, as said earlier, jerks. They hurt a girl, then we come in, try to clean it up, then we get dumped like a ton of bricks. Then The same girl goes back to the same guy that hurt them and it repeats alllllll over again. But, I got used to it, and now I AM TAKEN!!!!!! Been blessed with this God-givin girl, that I plan to marry in like 7 or 8 years. We maybe young, but young love is the best.
Keep ya heads up ladies. The guy that you're looking for maybe righte under your nose and you don't even know it. :)
|
|
|
61 posts
|
|
yea...but youre taken lol so you dnt count lol and for me its finding a guy tht is actually going to take the relationship seriously and not play childish games. Also a guy tht is around my age and mature as well and that is the REALLY hard part....
|
|
|
|
274 posts
|
|
eh u all have normal easily decribed problems for that, my problem is most girls cant handle my....putting it nicely "unprecitable personality" but i dont see myself ever finding and im ok with that and any of u may say i will ifnd her, please dont, i wont find her and oddly im ok with that, i truly am ok with that :)...
anyway anyone think that finding someone is a matter of chance, or pererverance cause il tell u right now , aint higher power invovled otherwise what is the point of free will
|
|
|
